I was counselled

Talk about a complete contrast to Dr C. The doctor who "counselled" me sure needs some counselling himself. He was so stoic it was actually quite scary. I mean, this is a doctor who will look and examine your most private parts! At the very least, I will want a doctor who is more personable.

Ah well. Another check on the list, another step closer to donating my eggs.

First visit to the doctor

Dr C is such a lovely lady. She has excellent bedside manners, is gentle, approachable and when she looks at you, you can almost feel all the ruffles and anxieties all smoothed and hushed.

I presented all my questions to her, which were mainly on the legality of egg donation in Hong Kong (information on this is very scarce on the internet). I got confirmation from her that the woman who gives birth to the child will be the legal parent and the egg donor will have no parental rights whatsoever. It was such a relief for me to have that in black and white, and to have it in bold on the documents.

M mentioned in our correspondence that if I wanted to donate eggs, Dr C said I cannot be a virgin. I raised this with the doc because it just didn't make any sense to me. The first thing that came to me was "Why not?!". A quick search on Google seems to point to the fact that there are religious/ethical issues and implications to be reckoned with if a virgin donates her eggs. WTF? As if donating eggs or sperm isn't already subverting all the religious norms. Well, I am a staunch atheist and I don't really care about that; much to my delight, Dr C said it's not because of the religious or ethical issues but because it will be too painful for a virgin to undergo a transvaginal ultrasound. Not once, but several times along the procedure. Ahhhh, so das ne!

There will be a compulsory counselling session with another doctor and after that I will have to go for my first transvaginal ultrasound, full physical exam, blood tests and the whole shebang.

Here we go!

I've got a reply! In case you're wondering, here's the post I put up on the forum:

Hi,

I am a healthy, 27 year old Asian female, non-smoker, university graduate, etc.. and I would very much like to donate my eggs. Does anyone know which clinics or hospitals I can go to?

Are fertility clinics in Hong Kong allowed to advertise for egg donors?

Thanks.
F.

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M replied to my post, asking if I would like to donate my eggs to her because she is born without ovaries. I was immediately moved for some strange, inexplicable reason. Here I have, a stranger, a complete stranger who knows nothing about me (aside from my ethnicity and age), asking me for my eggs. How cool is that. I really liked the idea of helping another human being - and not just the superficial, give-up-a-seat-on-the-subway kind of way. This is truly helping someone else, giving a part of myself unconditionally to her.

I'm now communicating with her - she has her doubts about why I would go all the way out to help a stranger, understandably, and I on the other hand, am quite afraid of the child growing up and finding out about me and will look for me and want to start a relationship with me. Eeps. Too much TV, perhaps?

Anyway, I'm due to meet her doctor for a consultation on 18 February. Here we go!